Agathasmw,

To answer your first question ... you do not sound like a bad daughter to me. Under difficult circumstances, you have followed your parents' changing rules with respect and humility. But now the situation has escalated into a crisis. The fact that your mother hit you and you hit her back creates a very tense situation.

My first concern is your physical safety. Your profile says you live in Africa, but not where in Africa. Can you tell us a little bit about the options a young, single woman has in your country? If you move out of your parents' home, can you find a living situation that is safe and free from harassment? None of us here know the realities of life where you live, so please help us understand.

Your mother may have a mental health problem. It might not have anything at all to do with your actions as the oldest child. Even if you've made mistakes in your life, as we all have, it doesn't mean you're bad. You're working hard to complete your education and following strict rules. You sound like a person who is trying her best.