It is tacky. It is also creepy. And as desperate as going to bars. And it cant be safe.

I like to be able to watch a man and get a sense of his character, over time. I like to know him pretty well, and even have some feeling of affection, liking, respect, fondness, before twirling my hair, which I read in a book, is the signal to begin flirtation.

There is a lot of subconscious communication between people that happens long before either thinks about approaching the other. It cant be good or safe to circumvent it.