Youre kind of reinventing the wheel here. I know youre young, but are you aware of whats going on in the country about gay marriage? Who is on what side and why? I dont think anybody is saying anything is your ts fault. Just saying what side it SOUNDS like she is on? And that its usually hard to get people to switch what side (of the gay marriage "debate") they are on. If she is against, and you are for - you have an adult decision to make. Thats life.