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Originally Posted by Travelinglady
Hello, aqsam, and welcome to Psych Central! As you say, you got sort of addicted to him, and the two of you spent a lot of time on-line with each other.
But, you have not even met, and you are abroad. He is around other people he can see and interact with, and has evidently found folks in real life and on the internet that he can spend time with.
The problem is that you put all your eggs in one basket, expecting more out of the relationship long-term than what he evidently wanted.
I suspect you were lonely, being away from home, and came to depend too much on interacting with him. I know it will be hard, but the best thing is to move on, seeking folks who are around you and trying to get out and enjoy interacting with other people. You are making yourself miserable by hanging on to him.
He might get back in touch one of these days, but I can assure you that you are really diminishing the chances of that by trying to stalk him and to push him back into spending a lot of internet time with you. Okay?   |
Wow ..You summed up the whole thing exactly how it happened in reality word to word. Like you said, yes I had (have) developed a strong hope for a long-term relationship. Now that you understand the whole situation clearly, can you suggest me something to distract my mind from him. I love books. Can't read because keyboard will scream and make me come and check his facebook.I had saved all his photos in my computer. After reading your reply, I deleted them all. Please, suggest me something. What should I do to kill his memories. When I was alone, started doing yoga. It helped. Now shared room and early work timings make it hard to manage. I am thinking to give my laptop and cell phones to some friend for some days. I desperately want him, but as he doesn't look interested any more, I want this association go away. Sorry I am again writing so long. For some unknown reasons, it helps me and makes me feel easy. Thank you again. You have no idea how much great of help you had done to me. If you can, please guide me. God Bless!!