i live in east africa, where our society values discipline and obedience to your parents. You are expected to make your parents proud. Disciplining your child physically is normal in the older generation but dying out among the youth. Yes it's very possible to move out and live alone as a young single woman. But it will take some time, saving of finances and which is normal.however in the time that it will take me to save up enough money and search for a place or even a roommate to make it easier financially, i just don't know what to do about my mother. Living with her is now tense, and what really upsets me is that there other girls in my societ that have done worse than graduate late, like get pregnant out of wedlock, post nude pictures, heavy party girls ( which are all cause for disownment in my conservative society) and yet the fact that am not even dating and all am focusing on is work and school seems to bypass her and all she can focus on is that her friends' kids have graduated, gotten married and i haven't.it's like she can't forgive me for doing that to her and if any of my siblings stumble in life ormake mistake as they are to do as they are now 18 and above, i will get blamed for it. That what they do is because of me.
Maybe i should give some background on my mother. She got married at 23 and had us. She has let us know many times that she wished she had made a different choice, in getting married and in a husband..since we were children by the way and has always looked to me to us as having to show her it was all worth it to her i guess. So the fact that i have done nothing of note for her is what brings the emotional outbursts/abuse.
It's like i just snapped that night. I couldn't believe she would attempt to hit me now over this of all reasons which was to receive a visitor during the day and the fact the caretaker told her makes her assume that she is being talked about ,laughed at by her neighbours, friends, relatives. It's all about her. She has forgotten that i am suffering too. That i have only had two friends visit me all year,this guy being one. That i see my friends in relationships or getting married or getting promotions and i regret my past and am now fighting for my my future, to her it's about her and her suffering as a mother. She will buy u something nice as a gift and then turn it around when she is upset and say look what she does for us and how we reward her as ungrateful children and am just sick and tired and fed up