Hello:
Perhaps you can be of help to me as I am very devastated since my dear loving aunt passed on.

My aunt passed on over a month ago, we were extremely close, she lived with me for many years. Several years back she moved in with a man who she never married, I became very attached to him too, and always respected their relationship, he in turn showed great admiration for the love my aunt and I shared together. How I miss her so.
Since my aunt passed on her common law spouse, this man I speak of, who once showered me with so much affection, now, since the day my dear aunt left this world will not even talk to me and tells me it is not my business knowing anything about my aunt, re wills, re her belongings, and anything I gave to her while she was still here on this earth, he is the only one who can talk about her. He totally disregards and disrespects my feelings for her and the rest of my family, as if we never knew her, it is so terrible. It is almost like he lied that he was happy that my aunt and I were so close, and she believed he was happy that we were so close. I spent years and years of the happiest memories and days of my life with her. It is like he put on an act that he cared so dearly for her niece while she was alive, and now since she so sadly left he has decided to show his true colours, this is truly a slap in the face to me, and something I never expected. My aunt would be so angry and disgraced at his behaviour as we were soooooooooo very very close and I was always welcome at her home, for which he will not welcome me in anymore. I have called him a few times and he tells me nothing is my business.
Here's where the very sad part comes in. My aunts will was never mentioned by him to date, and it has been several months, to any of her family. So I found out who her lawyer was and went to see him. This man she lived with had the will all along and had the estate settled the day after she passed on while we were making funeral arrangements and never ever uttered a word to any of us. I read the will talked to the lawyer only a couple of weeks ago, and he told me that this man was with her when she wrote her will and he had her leave everything to him. As far as property aunt's will stated that all property in her home was to be distributed as per her instructions, no names mentioned or anything, so this man is living with and in her property and I wonder what to do. What were her wishes, who were these things to go to? He refuses to talk to her closest loving relatives, myself, my father (aunts loving brother), my aunt adored us. She made 2 wills the first one was revoked, never got the chance to see it. I fear that he had her not leave me anything, as I know she wanted to, she gave me things through the years and told me not to tell him she gave them to me, funny that eh! So to this date, I am very very sad, I feel very betrayed by this man as does my entire family, her brothers, sisters etc.....Someone who pretended to show me love in front of my aunt, who now does an about face and is treating me worse than dirt after she is gone. I am very hurt indeed. My aunt and I shared a love so very beautiful and it hurts me so that he could dishonour her and her memory as well as my relationship with her.

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Sadeyedlady