I was married unhappily for 20 years, had a daughter, and finally got the nerve to leave after she left for college. My husband wasn't bad to me; I just never loved him, and married him because he looked like my one true love. I have been in contact with and seen this love a couple of times over the past 5 years. The flame is still there, but he is married and will never leave his wife. We used to email each other daily, but recently it has stopped from his end. All my adult life, I've had dreams of him in which he always leaves, to another woman, or to become successful. Those dreams have conditioned me to accept this situation for what it is. I am not going to write to him expressing this. It is what it is, was what it was. I have always known nothing would come of it.
Patty