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Originally Posted by HazelGirl
I don't exactly know how to ask this question. It came from another thread where someone was talking about how their T was upset because of their story. And I am wondering if anyone else has had that happen? Has your T expressed their own sadness/tears/sorrow over what you have gone through?
My T has said that she understands what I am feeling, but I don't know how much it really affects her emotionally. Is it a mental acknowledgement that it would be upsetting to go through something like that? Or is she sad about what I am talking about? I don't know the answer for her, but I haven't ever seen her tear up or anything. Maybe she's just heard so many stories at this point (she's been a T for 20+ years) that nothing really phases her by now.
Anyone else have any stories or experiences regarding this?
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My T has expressed anger at the people who have hurt and failed me. I have also seen T tear up a lot when I talk about my childhood; I've thought about this and pondered why. Maybe it triggers something for T, or maybe she is expressing what I need to. Sometimes when she sheds a tear as I talk I think, 'huh, maybe it really was sad and upsetting'. Maybe T is teaching me about my feelings by showing me, like parents would with their children??
I'm ok with it, it makes me feel that she understands and cares about me.
Her tears are never over the top and never becomes a topic of conversation. They just are.