Agathasmw, thank you for the information.

Your mother sounds like an unhappy woman, suffering from her own emotional disturbances. It would be very nice if she felt happy in her life, with her marriage and her children, but when you get right down to it, you are not responsible for making your mother happy. It is not your fault that she felt she made a wrong choice when young. As StuckinRut says, she may be trying to address her own unhappiness with her life by correcting you. But, really, right now you're working very hard, following strict rules and trying to do your best.

You sound as if you know what you had better do -- work hard, save your money and get your own place as soon as you can afford it. In the meantime, it may be best to try to avoid confrontations with your mom, seeing that anger and violence can quickly escalate.

You're doing a good job under difficult circumstances. Believe in yourself and you will soon be able to live your own life.