Personally, I think he has tried to keep the focus on you and your healing...from what you have written, he has given you some general idea, but "does not see you as a diagnosis but as a person". I think this is actually okay in some situations and as he is not treating you with medications. The dx codes are really just a list of characteristics of a certain disorder that help professionals talk to other professionals in order to give a RANGE of behaviours and thought processes to deal with. Also to tell insurance companies so that he will get paid for his services and if they have questions about why they are paying for a particular procedure/med/service etc...

I like that that he is keeping the focus on you. I have had to "deal" with some dx and it took me months to get over how I was told, what it entailed, how I disagreed/agreed, researched the dx...etc. Better to look towards treatment and future of healing in many cases...NOT ALL...but many. I put T and pdoc through the wringer trying to come to grips with some things.

In the end, they both finally convinced me that they don't subscribe to the "reputation" of the dx or believe that I have every characteristic or that I AM the dx....I am just a person that needs some help.

I do NOT know about the legalities, and I'm sure you could force their hand...but in the end, does it make a dang difference? Not particularly except where said DX might influence future care or my rights.

Just think carefully and take it all with a grain of salt.
I do not think it wrong to want to know...I just wonder sometimes if it is really worth it?
Just thinking out loud...I really don't have any right or wrong opinion. You have been given a lot of advice, and theirs is probably more correct...

Gentle hugs,
- WB