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Originally Posted by Wysteria
Dear Werewoman,
They way he said it to me...which I hang on to dearly...is that I have emotional needs and pain that I just don't know how to soothe or get soothed and thus I sometimes act out (in)...
we are so sensitive to this pain and our pain receptors are so overwhelmed that we do things and think things that others don't understand or can't relate to.
Yesterday he was like 10 min. late finishing up with prior client and dealing with something...I was early and it was a very important session for ME...I was already in tears before he came to get me. I was just hurting THAT MUCH!!! I truly was in agony. NO ONE else gets that or can feel it or understand it. If most people felt as MUCH as we do...they would do crazy things to get their needs met too. The pain and feelings are REAL. Our reactions and knee jerk reactions and warped ability to read responses from others just intensifies these feelings and then shame spirals...
Gentle hug,
-WB
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Your words are incredibly helpful. Thank you so much! It's so hard for me to fathom the intensity of emotion that borderlines feel but you have described it in such a way that gives me a better understanding of what my mother endures on a daily basis.
