ok. Again, I'm sorry to hear this. When you calm down, you can begin a list... tack it on your refrigerator (if there's room) one item you can put on there is for HIM to quit jerking you around LOL

try to find a different perspective. Maybe you can milk it for all it's worth? Like, if it's a free lunch out, hey, go for it. We've all had meals with toads before... ppl we had to work with, ppl at seminars...

but if it isn't something you want to do, then say NO thankyou. That isn't something I want to do with my time. You have something else planned. You don't have to itemize your time for him. Not at this point. (and later, only if you were decide this would work ah hem!)

You'll find your balance. Breathe.