so a situation just happened with me and my bf its really bothering me. we have been together six years and aren't living together or any plans of marriage. I find myself wanting to scream for all of the stupid things in our relationship. for one I feel he's very overbearing and its driving me insane.
this situation that just happened went like this, he calls me waking me out of sleep to ask what is on my credit card because he did a credit check on himself and it shows an amount ( I placed him on my cred card because I have amazing credit and his was s**t and I was helping him bring up his score, he never had access to my card ) and I say yes and tell him he shouldn't even be showing anything because I tiook him off it a few months back when we broke up for about a month.
he then freaks out saying I have lied to him about not telling him how much debt is on my credit card which is in fact only $1700.00 which I feel is not a lot considering I pay more than the bill each month and pay always on time. which is not only making my credit fine and practically perfect but also raising his, which I didn't have to do in the first place.
then he gets all crazy and wants to see what I have bought so being the truthful gf I am I give him the passwords so he can see for himself, as hes going through he begins to try and accuse me of being shady. ( a hotel stay was was in fact for us was on there but he didn't realize it because we booked it a month early for something we were going to
this is extremely irritating, it shouldn't matter what my debt is, we aren't living together or married, he is no longer on the credit card and I helped him raise his score. anytime there is a question of things I do or say im a terrible person/ liar, but if I ask for the same info I get yelled at and called clingy and what you. I prolly should have told him how much it was but in honesty im embarrassed by it...I dunno why its I don't even consider it being in real debt I can pay it off no problem im just keeping my credit up. then its like I can't talk to him and explain that im embarrassed because I get called a psyco and told I have issues for keeping it hidden.
its like if I keep anything to myself about anything strictly to do with me, finanaces goals, people I talk to, im a lying p.o.s. but if I do the same im psyco.
I haven't even tiold him I am a member of this site because then he will want to read everything I have said whom I talked to, even though I have never mentioned names or anything that would our identities away. I cant talk to him to express how I feel, he doesn't understand he claims to be open but in fact hes very if people don't agree with everything he says does or projects then your the crazy one. so a lot of the time I feel I have to hide things from himso I don't get flipped out on and called a liar.
it isn't fair to me, I want to be able to tell him everything and anything, and never hide anything, but how can I not want to close down myself from him when all I get is the negative, nothing positive for my views/situations. I feel like a bad gf, but at the same time I don't feel like im doing anything wrong, im not hurting him, im not cheating or doing anything of that nature. im just trying to find someone who will understand how I feel and help me since he isn't
so am I a bad gf for hiding things when they are really none of his business anyways?