I have not tried to persuade a therapist to change styles much. I have gotten one to mostly stop talking and another to explain things to me - so it works well enough for me. I did want the first to explain and although she said she would, she also would refuse or deny that she could when I would ask. Thus I simply found others who could and would. I would probably figure out a way to make the therapist work out (eg - not talking) or find new ones rather than try to get them to change styles in a significant way. I did tell the first one that I have found a therapist who will and that I do see that therapist too - so if she sought to thwart me - she failed.