Granite - this really is tough stuff. I have very similar feelings with this around my T. Just reading these posts have made me realize that I jump to the same conclusions. It is really painful. i am so sorry you are hurting. I just want you to know that I relate. And I am sorry you are going through this. Keep strong. I think your T cares a lot about you and is trying to give you the opportunity to discuss with her your reactions? Take good care, Granite.