And I am totally opposite - first I wanted to ban myself from sending e-mails... And when I actually managed to achieve this aim, my T made something like:
Lately I changed the approach and in my "contract" I put: not feeling guilty if I send the e-mail - nicer point than banning
But in my contract are also:
- being as honest as possible - so if I don't want to say something instead of changing the topic or being quiet I say that I don't want to say it and I either give a reason why not or add that I even don't want to say why not...
- being open minded - I know that all my methods didn't work and that's why I'm in therapy, so even if I am not the biggest fan of T's suggestions, I ask myself: why not try? Do I have any good alternative? In the worst case it won't work neither but maybe it will work...
- respect my T but also respect myself (there is still a lot of space for improvement regarding this point, but I'm getting there) - do not force myself to do something only to please my T if I feel that I cannot do it...

And I guess many more points are in my virtual contract with myself...