I think thats her point. Why didnt you understand what she said in her letter? By saying you want closure, it does sound like youre trying to impose your will on the situation. I think that by offering her payment, after she conceded payment for the asperger testing cancellation, you are trying to show her that she will dance to your tune, which is really insulting - which might be at the heart of the matter, and why she only wants to deal with it in the relationship. I have said some horrible things to my t - i just blame them on my mother! Seriously - its because horrible things were said to me, and its like they sit inside you waiting to come back up. Thats why ts get paid so much - they receive these horrible things from so many of us. But you cant just hit and run. Well - im glad you understood her letter.