That is horrible. As a man, I almost feel like I shouldn't comment, but domestic violence isn't just a "women's issue" at all. Not all abusers are men, although most are, I recognize that.

What happened to you is terrible, both your childhood of being raped/molested, and again being abused by your husband.

You don't make it clear whether or not you are "safe" from him now, but if you are not, you need to be. I hope you are. If not, I hope you can find the courage to contact a domestic violence crisis line and tell them what you wrote here. He needs treatment, obviously, but he also deserves to answer to the legal system for what he did to you.

Please be safe.