My T and I have talked about this. Sometimes I mean: "I think you don't want me to come back," or "I'm afraid to come back." Sometimes it's kind of like a repeat of when I told my parents I felt SU and I need to know it matters if I come back or not.

My rules are:

- I don't cancel my appointments. I would cancel if I was really unwell or otherwise physically unable to go, but that has never happened.

- I don't reschedule my appointments unless I absolutely have to. I see therapy as something that has to happen at a set time, not as something I can potentially move.

- I don't quit. I threaten to quit, I tell myself I'm quitting, but I don't actually quit. If I do ever quit suddenly, ie not because therapy has come to a natural end, I've asked my husband to remind me that I shouldn't.

- If I think my T has said something cruel or unkind, I check it out with him because I've probably misheard or misunderstood.