Can you stop? Can you stop and be OK with it? Can you not drink and be OK? Can you have one or two and stop and feel fine? If you quit for a month, do you feel the need to go back to drinking again? Do you have "one or two" even when you know you shouldn't?
Pay attention to that stuff.

Try quitting for a while - like weeks or months. Try limiting yourself to one or two, only two or three nights a week. See how you feel and see what happens.

Even in AA, which is a spiritual (not religious) type program, God can help, but you have to do the work. And it helps to have the support of other people who are doing the same thing you are.

There used to be a program called Moderation Management. It wasn't a good idea for really addicted people (and so it got a bad rap) but it was helpful to some people who just drank too much but weren't addicted (yet!). You might still be able to find some of the literature around.