I have this issue too, and it is very hard for me. I've always felt like my neediness stems from not having a family that loved me, so I always felt so desperate and alone. I've felt like I needed a person to "anchor" me in life, and right now that seems to be my T, which is a far second best to having a real family.

I care about my therapist a great deal and will feel a loss whenever our relationship ends, but it just isn't the same kind of relationship. I won't feel like my heart and soul has been ripped out of me like I felt with my sister or when I almost lost my husband or when we thought my son was missing and I was handing over his picture to the police. The impact just won't be that gut wrenching. Does that make sense? That's the personal perspective I'm speaking of when I speak of how I will react to the loss of my T.