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Originally Posted by tinyrabbit
My therapy is open-ended, and I could keep going until my therapist dies, but I'm not sure I actually want to pay for therapy forever. I know the door will never be totally closed, as once I said if I had terminated therapy and then a few years later I had a bad day and contacted him he wouldn't care, and he said I was wrong.
I suppose the problem is that, while there doesn't need to be any kind of ending, certainly not an arbitrary one, it's ultimately a relationship I pay money for.
I don't speak to my family of origin because they are all toxic and horrible. And while I think it's great to have perspective, the problem is that my T is a really great person who I feel very close to, and I can't stand the idea of having to lose him one day. Maybe I'll just go to therapy forever.
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All relationships have costs. Teachers, doctors, family, friends, lovers.... none are without reciprocation. In therapy, we reciprocate with money, which is unusual, but no relationships are free. I don't believe even the parental ones are free.... they're typically predicated on a fair amount of obedience and adherence to values among other things, though they're certainly arguably the closest to not needing any reciprocation. In my case, now that I think about it, the cost of having my mother back would be much much higher than the cost of having my therapist. My mother is a much worse return on investment, ha. My therapist is a relative bargain.