Peaches, i think youve hit on something. Ive had ts that were crazymaking. Whether it was because i couldnt be honest, or i didnt feel safe with them, i mean - whose "fault" it was - the point is, it wasnt a good match. And truth be told, the t was aware of it and wanted me to find someone else, but i was a total clingon. Or borderline. With this t, though, i educated myself til we could break thru my craziness. Eta - now he is supporting me thru the process of me dealing with my self-sabotage / evil introjects.