The fact is, for men & women, that if you are desperate, people can sense it. It is a turn-off. I am not trying to be mean. Just real. As soon as a person stops desperately seeking a mate & starts doing things that are fun/interesting for them, the chance of finding the right person who Will be "into" you elevates.
I never needed a guy. But they swarmed around me. I was never a "girlie girl." I climbed trees, swam in creeks, ran for miles alone. Loved being alone. But guys were always after me. Sometimes, the wrong ones! I really think it was because they could sense I was AOK alone.
As an adult, I got into acting, dancing, writing, book clubs, Ren' Faires & other things that I loved. I met my husband of 27 years while doing a play. I was 30. I hadn't acted since college but told my BF "I'm getting back into acting!" It was fun. I'd been dating 2 guys who weren't interested in marriage at that time. The actor & I hit it off right away.
My husband, before he met me, had your problem. Desperate for a relationship all his life. Never had a GF for longer than 6 weeks. He is super intelligent, handsome, sweet, hard-working, loves theater, poetry, hikes in nature, travel. I am SO lucky that all those girls/women who rejected him left him alone! He is the greatest guy.
I collect love stories. I've read stories about people who were single in their 30s, 40s, 50s and up to their 90s who suddenly met the love of their Life at a high school/college reunion or in a book club or discussion group.
So there IS someone out there for you! As soon as you get involved in something that you love doing, you will start meeting people who are really interested in who you really are. You are young, it will happen for you!



quote=Secretum;3793164]Thanks for all the advice and kind words. I saw my t today, and talked about this. I feel slightly better now, though I'm still disappointed with my love life and wish things were different. Oh, well. When the right person comes into my life, it will be worth the waiting.[/quote]