It seems to be all the rage and has such a healthy ring: "Learn how to be a good parent to your own inner child." There is web page after web page and book after book on this topic that sounds like such a fine solution to inner conflict. But I have something I believe is important to say about this. Even though this inner child work is a great idea to some extent, someone like me who has an Attachment Disorder, or lives in Omnipotent Denial, is eager as a beaver to leap on that do-it-yourself wagon and make a major defense and cop out from therapy.

I found myself doing this right in front of my therapist. I dreaded the positive transference, where a patient needs to face his/her relationship problems by having a relationship. I went to therapy with this "parent my own inner child" project and in a few weeks had completely cut my therapist out of the therapy! My motto being, "thank you very much but I can take things over from here" when I haven't even broached a relationship with my therapist yet, whether negative or positive. I became depressed and deadened inside. I have bonding and relationship issues that are deep and I need a therapist to help me feel and work through feelings with a real person, not a mechanical concept.
So, I just want to point this out and bring this defensive maneuver to everyone's attention that might be concerned with this.