it sounds like you know what you don't want out of this relationship, so now you just have to stand up for yourself. just make sure you use I statements. try not to use the word you when explaining yourself to him. talk about the situation as much as possible and not him. you don't like it when you are told what to do instead of you don't like him telling you what to do for example. but you sound to be perfectly on base here. totally rational. he is the one being irrational. take care.