You've said things before that suggested your T was unwilling to engage in the transference. Is it your T telling you that you can't move forward in therapy if you are attached to him? Or is that your idea? I think this is a key issue that you need to discuss with your T. I am firmly attached to my T, and we are making great progress in therapy. I hope you can get to the heart of this.

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Hi Sunrise, I guess that is what I don't know. What are we supposed to be discussing about my attachment? We are not discussing much. We did a little months ago but it's not a focus of our sessions. I mentioned last session that I apparently created this attachment and he didn't say that I wasn't right.

He just said he wants to foster a healthy dependency and not an unhealthy one. When I asked if he thought my dependency was unhealthy he said no but didn't really elaborate.

I'm nervous now to say much more but I guess I need to at least talk about this cycle I'm in. It is making my anxiety worse not better.

When I read what you gals talk to your T's about, I think maybe he's either afraid to address it with me because I'm so sensitive about him rejecting me or he isn't sure what to do about it. But that can't be right? If this is the whole point of therapy then I'm confused...even more...

I'm not sure where to go but you're right. I need to address this better next week. It's hard once I get there. I feel silly bringing it up and it's hard for me to talk about feelings that are one-sided. I wish he would take the active role with it. I don't know what to do about it anymore.

The thought of going somewhere else and not seeing him again is painful. He is the only one that I have ever opened up to period. It took me over 30 years to do this and he's the right one for me. Lately though, something isn't right with me and either I'm not doing something or he's not...

Thanks for the support. It means a lot