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Originally Posted by FatPenguin
I don't feel like my friendship and relationship with others is really valued by anyone.
Not my family.
Not really my friends, except for one of them.
Not my past "girlfriend" who put me in the friendzone forever and still wants to be friends, but it still seems like I'm the one who talks to her and can't stop talking to her.
I just want to leave, not even say goodbye, and vanish.
I'm always online, always talking, and I feel like I'm the one who does most of the initiation.
I'm just done.
I want to move somewhere I like and life over. Anyone else feel this way?
Like you got stuck with a certain lot of people who don't give a crap about you, when maybe if you have grown up somewhere else, you might have ended up around better people?
These people don't value me. Maybe my energy could be invested better elsewhere. I'm in Arizona, btw, a state I can't stand. Maybe there are better places to live, with better people.
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The question you ask, inherently is flawed. It assumes that every one of your friends, acquaintences or relatives is the same and all either hate you, are mean to you or something, for the same reasons or what not.
First off if that's the case, which I highly doubt, you have to figure out that the common denominator is you. For all the behaviors you feel you do not get reciprocity from, you have to ask if it's something that happens across the board, then what is the factor you can change? Most behaviors of people are tempered by reacting to soemthing the other person did. What i mean is, everyone has a different nature and set of behaviors and if all of these individuals are doing the same thing, perhaps it's in something you're doing that is causing the situation to happen?
If everyone ignores me, I have to ask " what am I doing that makes people want to do this?" becuase if it's a single person doing so, then I can assume it's their behavior issue, but if it's many people acting the same, likely it's me.
I'm not judging here, they are no better than you but you're not void of any responsibility either, and on top of that the only one you can change is you. The more you recognize how your behaviors affect others in a consistent way the more you'll learn how to cope, and change those things that are creating the undesired effect.