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Originally Posted by ptangptang
Point 1. You have a job. Lots of people would give a lot to be able to say that. I would guess that most people either don't like, hate, are bored with their job or would rather do someting else. So you're not alone there. try everything you can to make it better. If you can't look for another job. As the op said it's easier getting another job while you are in one.
point 2. Make friends. Not easy i know but it can be done. Join clubs ( meetup.com is great for that). Be positive and interested in other people. People like positive people. Are there any people at work that you get on with. If so suggest meeting out of work, could be anything you both like doing. Force yourself to go out and meet people and do things.
point 3. Go on a dating site . I would say Ok Cupid is pretty good. Take some great pictures and write a great and interesting profile. I did and got together with someone after a few months. It's pretty shallow and looks count for a lot ( were all pretty shallow) but there are woman that look beyond appearances and the more you message the greater your chances of a response. Ity's a numbers game and online dating is the easiest way. You can pay of course but i wouldn't bother.
Point4. It sucks big time to look older than you are. I know. I started losing my hair in my late teens ( i'm 58 now)and from then everyone thought i was older than i was. But shaven heads these days are de rigeur and a lot of women like bald heads so don't worry about your looks.
Have confidence in yourself. I know i'm a great guy and all those women that base their judgement on how i look are missing out. I have 2 houses, money. i'm easy going, like a laugh etc etc so it's their loss. That's how you should feel. I'M A GREAT GUY. IT'S THEIR LOSS. Good luck. LIfe goes on. Yeah you could kill yourself but then you lose the chance of things getting better for you. Change your mindset and they will. I gurantee it.
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1. I totally agree with you that having a job is something good, but what I want to say that if you have a boring job and repetitive one, dealing with people from different backgrounds and cultures, that will jot you feel comfortable at all, do not forget that working takes more than have of your day (disregarding the sleeping hours) being in this environment for this time the whole week will really make anyone ill and depressed, staying at home is very bad for sure, but in that case I and anyone else will be much more happy, at least will have a peace of mind (the only problem here will be financial because I have to spend money from savings till I find new way of income).
2. I do agree that making friends is really so hard, and finding a really kind ones those makes your life better is even harder, being alone is really better that being with a wrong ones.
3. I hope to find my soul mate girl really quickly, I really like it so much to love and care for someone, I like to give more than I like to take, this might be one of the points that always makes me miserable, I like to please people and it always comes with bad responses and hurts after being used by others.
4. Being depressed always and miserable made me a heavy smoker, I was not smoking more than eight or seven cigarettes per day, now it is a pack of cigarettes per day, if my life quality got better, I will look much better, but unfortunately life always gets worse, and I am so scared that it will be more worse in the future, I have confidence talking with all people with eyes contact always and never appeared not a confident one.
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