Today I am going to try to post bail for my friend J. (Don't worry, it's his money.) If he does get released, I know he will need a place to stay for a few days. I am OK with letting him sleep on my couch, but I am not going to let him stay past next week. I am also going to set boundaries with him right away about not using me as a therapist and repeatedly ranting about every negative thing that's been on his mind for the past 3 months. I need to take care of myself, and not change my life and plans around to accommodate him. I don't need to take on the stress and negativity. I care about him, but I think it's time for him to grow up and take responsibility for assertively seeking treatment for his PTSD, instead of b*tching about everything. And I'm going to tell him that he is not allowed to use my computer. I know one of the conditions of his bond is that he is not supposed to use or possess any electronic devices with internet access. I'm also going to tell him that if he crosses that line, he will need to leave immediately. I am going to be one tough cookie.

I have a friend who will help me to stand my ground, and I will also see T on Monday and let her know what's going on. And I intend to lean on my PC friends for support (you've been warned)! Love y'all.