jean - I can sortof relate to your post.

I am in DBT too. (I actually love group because I am in a room of people with my same issues). But I can see why it would bother you.

Here is what my therapist would say to you - you need to attend group because it is process of experiencing "discomfort" (or uncomfortable settings) that will allow to someday get PAST that issue. Otherwise you will linger in it forever.

Don't know if that helps you or not. But it makes sense to me.