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Originally Posted by sweepy62
yes, im totally a caretaker, and she and previous t called me out on it, I feel very selfish sometimes, that its all about me, even though she discloses about herself, I hate it when she says I am her priority, i get upset. I always ask how she is doing, or how her weekend was, she tells me, but it is followed by, well I am concerned about how you are and how your week was, this is about you not me.
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I know better than to try to ask how her weekend was. Not that she wouldn't answer, but she would know I'm trying to deflect, and I would be called out on it as well. Although she has allowed me to spend considerable time talking to her about her and asking questions. So maybe she might see that as a necessary defense or coping method for me at the moment. She doesn't try to force me away or towards certain topics, and will leave them alone until I am ready for them. If I was able to be more vocal about my inner experience in therapy, I think I would benefit a lot more because she can quickly bend and adjust to what I am saying. But that would be selfish, like you said. So I don't.