That sounds like a generalization ...I don't know what to answer you. I don't think withholding love is therapeutic, nor do therapists I know seem to think that. Even the worst therapist I've ever met doesn't seem to think that. But I think it depends on perspective. I mean, I think there is a big difference between withholding love and keeping healthy boundaries so the therapist doesn't burn out. I believe there needs to be a measure of love in therapy, but it's unethical for a therapist to extend and act out all their love for clients ... there are bound to be clients a therapist will like more than others, clients a therapist would like to help more than others. It's just a human thing. But it's unethical to make differences like that, offer special treatment to some clients and not make the same efforts for others just because of subjective standards and personal feelings. So these boundaries are there to protect both therapist and client.