I can fit in with most everyone and, at the same time I've always felt like an outcast. By that I mean I can find common ground with just about anyone but I don't trust many people long enough to allow them to get to know the real me. I have a high level of empathy but I've never been comfortable in my own skin. I've always put more weight in how I was different from others and how they would reject me than in the things I had in common with them and they might accept me for. We learn these things at an early age from our parents who either make us feel empowered by our uniqueness (faults, blemishes, talents, fears, needs etc...) or to feel ashamed of it.