Seawhale, You sound like a lovely guy and I do hope that you find someone who will love you for who you are. Until then may I sugest that if you are really unhappy in your job to maybe look elsewhere for one. I know its very difficult to work with an intolerable person, but you can ride it out until something else comes along. I agree with a lot of the other posts, that girlfriend/ marriage is not the be all and the end all, the best of marriages are hard work. Best wishes and good luck. Think of this as a new chapter in your life, and good things will come you will see.