Hi Seawhale,
You sound like a very caring person who puts his needs second. Many women find that very attractive. You are only in your thirties, you have your best years ahead! I'm in my mid-forties and have been through many failed relationships throughout my life. We always want what we don't seem to have at the moment. Put yourself out there, you will find the one. Be patient, she will come when you least expect it.

Stay positive and start looking for another job. Being happy at work manifests itself in many ways and can make us depressed very easily. This alone can keep you in a weird funk, isolating, making it harder to meet positive people. Start with changing some of the small things you don't like about your life, and work your way up!

Good Luck!!

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