Yeah, that kind of confused me too.

If you feel it's selfish, I think you need to ask yourself why you feel that way, before you seek out a relationship. If you're truly ready, btw, a relationship will find you. Confidence is always intriguing and attractive.

There is nothing 'selfish' about wanting to be loved, respected, and appreciated by someone you love, respect and appreciate. I'm concerned of your question of whether it's a selfish idea, and what would make you even wonder??