Yes - i went when i was 20. I stayed with maternal cousins and paternal aunts and uncles. Within 3 days, i was quite fluent.

T says he might go one day, and i offered to be his translator, and this trip has somehow deformed itself into "our honeymoon when we get married". Not really sure what this is about. But i am feeling a little more empowered. The path of yes? maybe my t is just trying to meet me where i am - i wish that was in a better place!