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Originally Posted by stopdog
Never mind.
I see it is not a common phrase nor commonly used in the context she had it in.
I shall again endeavor to get her to stop trying to do whatever it is she thinks she is doing and to just be quiet and sit there. She is most useful to me when she does not talk at all - my mistake is that sometimes I let her and it always goes badly for me.
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In my training (I'm a social worker).....it was a phrase that got used a lot. I was taught that it means that I need to meet the client where THEY are, and not, perhaps, where I, as the clinician, think that they should be.
I think that the tendency in life is to impose our expectations for the situation onto someone ("I would do this," or "If this person could just realize x, it would help them SO much. Why don't they see that?") and it actually isn't helpful, because it just isn't where they ARE in that moment. It isn't good or bad, and it isn't a judgement....it just IS.
It's also supposed to be a tenet of acceptance and validation-that I SEE where you are in this moment, I understand why you are here, and it's ok.