Thanks guys. It's nice to have support, even if it's not direct answers. Cookie Monstar, him and I have been discussing things on and off. There are a few things that work, but they make him awkward or uncomfortable (like randomly deciding to masturbate in front of me). We're still working though but until we find something I think he's okay with "me time" in the shower... I just wish he didn't have to be.

Pikku Myy, self discovery is something I never stop doing and always have more to do! I'm trying to find another therapist who has experience with similar issues, but I haven't heard back yet.

Thanks for all the hugs everyone. I really appreciate the support. It's surprisingly one of the hardest things I've dealt with over the years...