Honestly...your T may have made some good points but telling you how much the "free" therapy actually cost her, doesn't demonstrate how much she cares, it demonstrates that she's really just not getting the concept of boundaries or ethics. Also her CC'ing the P.A in on your emails is total B.S!! I don't care if she has a psychology background, a doctorate or rules the world. You did NOT give your permission for anyone to seen your correspondence and therefore she has breached confidentiality.

I think you need to either have a break from therapy since you're in a good place or find a new therapist who can meet your needs.