Sorry you are in so much pain right now.

I'm also working on life-rebalancing in CBT. Work has taken over my life and I need to rebalance.

Homework this week is for me to make 2 pie charts---one diving up my life as it is now (probably looks like 80% work, 10% sleep, 2% friends, 2% family etc.)

The other pie chart is what I think I want my life to look like (50% work, 50% real life)

If pie chart # 2 is too daunting, CBT T wants me to make a list of anything that peaks my interest or curiosity (a glassblowing class, volunteering, etc)

You don't have to do or change anything right away with this exercise , it is just meant as a starting place, to reevaluate what your life could be.

Wishing you and grandma peace and a gentle transition.