I don't think that therapists have to Love their clients....after a long period of time, they often care/love about them deeply.

I recently read a book about young T's in training. this one dude was having trouble even "liking" his client...and therapy was not progressing. In his session/review with supervisor...the supervisor gently taught him how to empathize with the patient and sort of see the world through her eyes...Then, and only then could therapy really progress.

Thus "withholding" love may be an assumption on your part, may be helpful in setting boundaries, goes against the T's own personal boundaries and capabilities, or is too "new" to learn to control and tamper emotions down to truly focus on you...

Hope maybe that just gives you a bit different way of seeing things..

wb