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Old Jun 06, 2014, 11:53 PM
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Originally Posted by stopdog View Post
That woman said to me in response to me wondering why she is so totally unable to grasp what I try to tell her (in clear and direct ways I might add).
"I am trying to meet you where you are at" -
I have no idea what it means (I will ask at the next appointment but am baffled at it).
Has the therapist ever said such a thing to anyone else?
Yes. I (briefly) had a T who used that expression. I hated it. It was his standard reply anytime I disagreed with him, so I heard it a lot. Since he used it in his promotional materials, I thought maybe it was his catch phrase.
Later, I started working with current T who substituted the phrase "I'm just trying to understand what it's like to be you." I got annoyed with that very quickly and he explained that it was his way of communicating (compassionately) that he didn't understand what I'd said.
I told T that, if I can stop him and say "I don't understand what you mean," then I prefer that from him.

That was my experience. I don't know if that is where your T "is at" or not.
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