So you terminated, and now you are getting together again to talk about your former t's counter-transference? Just trying to understand.

I would be interested in hearing from my former t about if he experienced anything like this, but at the same time, sometimes these things really are better left unknown. One of those damned if you do, damned if you don't type situations. If the former t did not experience counter-transference, that makes me unlovable/undesirable. If he did that is difficult to accept and respond to. Because where do you go from there?

Does that make any sense? Glad you are exploring these issues regardless. Thanks for your post and the topic! And good luck with your former t, let us know how it goes- I, for one, am interested.