I agree with Hoasis. I think in the case of insecure attachment and/or a personality disorder therapy can help you keep your head above water, but you'll always be floating in a deep ocean while people who are securely attached and without a PD will be standing on dry land. It rains on them, but rain stops. We will always be out at sea. Therapy or meds is more like someone throwing you a life-preserver than actually making it to dry land.