great great questions. ive just written them down to journal on later and might actually bring my thoughts in to T next week. i wrote in a thread recently about what im afraid of... i forget where it was though. how vulnerable do i feel? um... does deer caught in headlights cover it? most of the time thats me. and what can i control? well in theory the only thing anyone controls is their reactions. in practice though i think my reactions must be covered in cooking oil cos they re way too slippery to get a firm grip on and they wont sit in time out when i tell them to.
also lol perna about controlling people lots smaller than you! hehe.
thanks for the ideas everyone and for starting the thread smilie.