ya it has felt like a game i have been over the heartbreak for a long time learning about her bipolar disorder help me let go of the resentment i had built up its just like you said she would pester, id refuse she stops for a while, i feel bad about it i was treating her like a co worker with respect and being civil but she wouldn't let it be over she kept right on pestering me to be friends again eventually it was driving me nuts and i had to confront her she denied leading me on and i asked her not to speak to me any more id thought id ask the experts here for advice but it sounds like i already know what to do and have been doing it all along