Well, my cats were victims, but we humans of the family and my 2 parakeets were okay. Our goat was okay, too, but we lost him a couple weeks ago. Old age I suppose. I understand what you mean, though, and went through those feelings for awhile after the fire. People were really nice with donations of clothes, food, etc. for awhile - even had a couple dinners for us, but it soon passed and became old news. Some "friends" on facebook sent me a few messages, but after that it was like they just disappeared. One, who is a widow, even sent me a package, and I was hoping we'd become close friends as we'd both experienced loss, but after that she was gone. And I was like, "Hey, I'm still in pain here!! Where has everyone gone?? It's not over yet!!" I got really frustrated about it. Felt totally alone and deserted. Some people just seemed to donate us their old junk to clean out their garages or whatever and to feel good about themselves for a little bit to say they helped out. So I get you totally. Just - don't worry about what others think. I've always dealt with this, too. As long as you are happy with yourself, that's all that matters. Just be the best you you can be.