"How am I going to get through the funeral" -- kindergirl, cry and share your unhappiness and sense of unfairness with the family; no one can/should "get through" someting this horrible.

Last summer my son/daughter-in-law had a friend lose their child who was learning to swim in a drowning accident. My husband and I went to babysit our grandchildren a couple times the next month or two to free up the son/daughter-in-law to just go be with their friends. There's a lot of comfort in just being around others you know and trust and who "understand" your grief, maybe you can help your friends that way.